Q&A: How To Help Cats That Bite When Being Pet?

Jackson answers your questions via video.

 “What’s the best ways of dealing with aggressive cats?

I have cats that I work with that can bite while being petted.”

Jackson  talks about why cats may bite and scratch when being pet, and what you can do about it.

He explains his view of cats being like energetic balloons, and the concept of overstimulation.

Three of the toys Jackson uses the most to help diffuse a cat’s energy in healthy ways are:

You can find them – along with a whole bunch of others – at Jackson’s online store, www.SpiritEssences.com.

  1. Lynn Ryan   July 25, 2012 at 1:40 pm  

    We have a cat who is 3 years old. He has been neutered. He cries at 6:00 am and 3:00 pm and not limited to these times. We do not know what the reason can be. We have broght him to the vet and they see no problems. This crying is making me to want to bring him to a shelter. BTW, we have an another cat and her name is Abbey. She is a very calm cat. They do get along. Thank for your help in advance.

    1. Team Cat Mojo   July 25, 2012 at 2:48 pm  

      Jackson’s recorded a video on “How to Make Your Cats Let You Sleep.” Try the re-training method and techniques he recommends in that video.

      Also, to support the re-training, you might wanna check out the Night Owl Remedy Jackson helped formulate, available through his online store, Spirit Essences.

      1. Nancy Labadens   October 7, 2013 at 12:39 pm  

        Hi Team Cat Mojo! >^-^<
        My friend has a kitten who is simply happy in his new home. His "bedroom" is the bathroom, but they would like to let him out with time. A few occasions they have but all he does is bite toes (ouchy!). Any suggestions on how to start the stop of biting before it gets to be a bad thing?
        Thank you Team Cat Mojo!!
        We are looking at the video referenced to help with a start!

    2. Lynda   January 17, 2014 at 4:38 am  

      Are you insane???? Taking a cat to a shelter because it cries???? I hope to hell that you don’t have kids. Pets are not just for your convenience. They are FAMILY.

    3. rox   January 17, 2014 at 7:51 am  

      How can you be so cruel as to treat your cat as an inconvenience because it cries? a shelter? really? i hope you dont have children…..

    4. ML   August 1, 2014 at 1:51 pm  

      Lynn, I know this is 2 years after you initially posted but, I do have an answer for the crying cat.
      I have a kitty that is very talkative. I play with her more and pay attention to her. I believe it is a sign that you are not paying enough attention to the cat. Cat nip helps keep my kitties calm.

      I bought a kitten and the breeder gives you a free adult cat with it. Well, I ended up with 2 free kitties because the one cat was returned to the breeder for crying too much.

      My free cat is a beautiful gorgeous white cat with long fluffy fur, she is a Turkish Angora.
      She get lonely even though I have two other cats. She is sometimes mean to the other cats and they will not play with her.

      Seriously, I paid more attention and that helps. I grab her and take her to bed and will hold her in place this helps calm her.

      Some animals like people are more talkative.

    5. Kelly   October 28, 2014 at 4:47 pm  

      I’m trying to wrap my head around that comment that your cat cries at 6 and again at 3 and because of this you’re contemplating a shelter?? Is he maybe just hungry at those times?? Maybe he’s crying because he wants attention?? I think it’s something like that because the vet said no health problems detected..I really hope you haven’t given your cat to an already overcrowded shelter over something as minor as this..it really sounds like you don’t have the patience to own a cat so it might be in both of your best interests to re-home (Not shelter). Many people are willing to foster until a forever home can be found so there’s always options! I agree with other posts and hope you don’t have kids because what your cat is doing is nothing compared to the needs of a child! Patience goes a long way and maybe that’s just what your cat needs from you right now? Maybe he can sense your stressful energy?? Hope it has worked itself out by now!

  2. Kathy Weber   July 25, 2012 at 7:24 pm  

    I have a Maine Coon who will be 2 in August, she is the funniest and funist cat i have ever owned. Since 7 weeks old she loves to “play” bite. She’ll attack your feet or your hand in play. I say ouch! and ask her to stop and she will. (she’s learned) however, even with all the stimulation she is given she thinks this is a “fun” game to play with the humans, actually I think it’s her way of saying you are mine! Any ideas on this Jackson? She’s gotten better as she gets older but sometimes forgets. AND I can tell when she’s in a pissy mood which is rarely but she gets “that” look in her eyes. It means I’m cranky today so keep your distance becasue today my bites are real!

    1. Team Cat Mojo   July 27, 2012 at 6:56 am  

      It’s great that you and your cat seem to have some kind of understanding about appropriate vs. inappropriate biting. I’m sorry to say Jackson doesn’t have time in his schedule to address questions here on the blog directly. Sometimes, if there are recurring questions, he’ll record a video. That’s what gets posted as blog posts.

      1. Sarah H.   August 9, 2012 at 7:14 pm  

        My 2 year old cat does the same thing! Often he play bites my hands or feet. Sometimes, he gets “that look” in his eyes…and out of nowhere he will bite in a not so playful way. For example, last night I woke up to him biting my calf. Usually if a bite is playful I say his name and he nuzzles or comes to me for a pet. He had “that look” in his eyes last night. Sometimes he bites my arm like that as well. I wish he didn’t have that aggressive bite.

        1. Ruthe   January 5, 2014 at 3:00 pm  

          To Sarah H. and anyone else with similar problem – I have a 2 year old tuxedo female cat. After I have brushed her she will get “that look” in her eyes, her ears lay flat down towards her back, she will give a quiet weird meow then bite my legs or arms and it hurts – she usually draws blood. I have been told that she gets over stimulated from the brushing and that is the reason for her actions. I know she loves to get brushed, but I don’t really get her actions. Any suggestions?

    2. Jennifer   August 7, 2012 at 8:04 am  

      I have this problem with a new kitten we brought home. He’s about 3 months old and he thinks my hands are play toys. He’ll lick and bite and even grab my arm and kick with his back legs. He likes to do it while I’m typeing on my lap top like right now. I would love to know what are the appropriate steps to stop this issue before it grows into something bigger.

    3. Alicia Kenny   September 15, 2013 at 4:25 pm  

      Omg I have a main coon too..! And your story is exactly to a T my cat missy… What can we do…? Please help as she is getting bigger it’s a little harder

      1. Stephanie   September 19, 2013 at 6:24 pm  

        Hi Alicia,

        I’ve been watching a lot of My Cat from Hell in the last few days and I think I might have some ideas. When I look around the main part of mums house, there aren’t many spots where my cat can get up to survey the area – so im thinking of putting some cat shelves in near the windows for mum. Also he probably doesnt get played with enough – or more so on a “when we feel like it” basis. I think i’ll have to make a play time schedule for mum. 10 minutes each night at the same time should be good i think. With the food I think she’ll need to start feeding twice a day at the same time and never any other time – and no treats to stop him from biting – i guess thats teaching bad behaviour. What do you think of those ideas – i think they might make a difference.

        from Steph

    4. Donald G.   June 27, 2014 at 11:42 pm  

      @Kathy Weber:
      Hello there! so first i applaud you for not implementing punishment as it really makes things worse.

      This situation can be solved by moving his domain from the ground to the trees (not literally). Despite the Maine Coon’s size, they typically enjoy being high up so i would recommend integrating a watch tower of sorts into her domain. a place where she is safe and confidant, and has play routinely integrated upon.
      For play i would avoid the use of lasers as it has half of the predatory hunt, catch, and kill equation with the inability to catch the little red dot. supplement with a toy that puts distance from you and the toy, id go for a bird mimicking toy (found on Jackson’s website), they rather enjoy feather toys as it stimulates feeling of success in the hunt. Also stay far away from overly complicated toys and novelties as they often confuse everyone.
      Maine Coons are amazing creatures and respond positively to positivity, i encourage you to be persistent an patient in your endeavors.

  3. Mary Ozee   July 26, 2012 at 5:39 am  

    We are having a terrible time combining our pet dogs, Lucy and Chico, and our cat, India. I understand that it’s natural for dogs to chase cats. I get that she’s acting like prey, so they’re going to chase her. But she actually ran away for a week. The dogs have been prevented from chasing India many times, so they know we don’t like it. India is a bengal mix, and won’t let me hold her for more than a few seconds. I can’t trim her nails. She’s pretty skittish, so the vet prescribed amitryptaline, which I couldn’t get down India, and then a low dose of valium . So I have two problems: dogs chasing the cat all over the house, and a cat that’s really too wild to be allowed outside.

    1. Team Cat Mojo   July 27, 2012 at 7:04 am  

      That does sound like a really difficult situation!

      You may have seen on this blog that along with using behavioral/retraining and play therapies, Jackson uses holistic remedies he helped formulate himself.

      One of the combinations he uses most is called Ultimate Peacemaker and it sounds like your household is an ideal candidate for it. It is “For deep, serious, or long-standing aggression/conflicts between animals” and is used a lot in multi-pet households. Check it out and if you have questions, contact the team at Jackson’s company, Spirit Essences.

      Good luck!

      1. Mary Ozee   July 27, 2012 at 7:15 am  

        We have given India Ultimate Peacemaker, but it doesn’t seem to change her demeanor. Kinda wish Jackson and Cesar Millan worked together on some cases.

        1. Team Cat Mojo   July 28, 2012 at 10:20 am  

          Ultimate Peacemaker is not designed to be given to just one animal. Please see this post on the Spirit Essences blog for instructions on how to use the 3-Formula Sets, including Ultimate Peacemaker.

          Also, consistency is KEY in seeing results with the remedies. Most times when people aren’t seeing results, we also find they are not applying the remedies as directed: 3-4 times per day.

          But yes, Jackson and Cesar would be a way cool show!

          1. Donald G.   June 28, 2014 at 12:03 am  

            I completely agree, regularity in the pet’s schedule is key to achieving a copacetic goal, i would avoid the use of medication as because often it is for a severe temporary relief of an issue, over time the pet may develop kidney/liver issues, and overall is hard to administer.
            That is why Jackson’s remedies are favored because as long as you use the product as instructed it will not become detrimental over time and the liquid forms are easier to integrate into water or feeding. With that being said if India has been diagnosed with PTSD i would consult further into the matter because often times cats with PTSD need medication to help them cope with the “triggers” of their stress, and during the time of which these triggers are temporally separated from the pet and slowly reintegrated back into their lifestyle.
            To help i would like to add something to consider and could be extremely beneficial to her is to integrate a cat walk that leads up to her own little “escape” so to speak. This will help India become more confidant as she acclimates to the rambunctiousness of the two pooches.

  4. Mikkie Love   July 26, 2012 at 10:29 am  

    I have a 6yr old white and orange tabby named Beau. We purchesed a new sofa and love seat,
    about a month ago, last night to my suprise my beautiful Beau POOPED on the sofa and tried
    to cover it as if in the his litter box,and this Am my boyfriend Jack and I found it happened again
    on the otherside of the sofa.Beau is a wonderful boy and has his moments,but the only one time
    he did go outside of the litter box and is was because he box was dirty(not the case here)
    Help Jackson
    Jack and Mikkie

    1. Team Cat Mojo   July 27, 2012 at 7:15 am  


      OK, since the sofa is pretty new, this might be a case of territorial marking, with Beau trying to claim the sofa as part of his territory. You might want to try putting one of his existing pet beds on the sofa.

      Also, Jackson has a whole segment of his holistic Spirit Essences remedies especially focused on environment & territory issues. You can try exploring those and again, if you have any questions about them, contact the Spirit Essences team through their site.

      Good Luck!

  5. Karen   July 26, 2012 at 7:39 pm  

    We have a 6 year old male rescue cat. He is very sensitive to loud noise and strangers. He consistently attacks our other male cat when he uses the cat box. We have tried everything we can think of but really need some advice. please help.

    1. Team Cat Mojo   July 27, 2012 at 7:25 am  

      That’s a lot to deal with, for everyone: cats and humans!

      Please take a look at the Spirit Essences holistic remedies for Inter-Animal & Social Issues.

      Jackson uses one of these remedies on almost every case he works with.

      Of course there are many factors involved with every situation, because every situation is different. If you have questions about choosing a remedy or about your situation, contact the team at Spirit Essences. Along with just processing the orders that come in, they work with customers to advise them about their situations and the best approach to take using remedies.

      Good Luck!

      1. ML   August 1, 2014 at 1:57 pm  

        Maybe the rescue cat needs his own litter box. I have 3 cats and several litter boxes because sometimes more than one cat has to go.

  6. Paula   July 27, 2012 at 1:19 am  

    I have two queens and a tom cat, 8, 8 and 9 years old. Due to someone not wanting their cat I now have a 12 year old britsh blue boy. Any advise on how to get past the hissy spitty sessions? no on has been very agressive but I do want them settled.

    1. Team Cat Mojo   July 27, 2012 at 7:30 am  

      Wow, that’s a lucky cat who got adopted by you.

      Along with all the usual strategies for introducing new pets (see Jackson’s blog post on this), you can also use Jackson’s holistic remedy called Peacemaker.

      Good Luck!

  7. Sabrina   July 27, 2012 at 10:15 am  

    Similar to this question, I have a 13yo neutered male cat who I’ve had since he was 6 months old. I love him dearly. Sometimes when we are petting him, he gets overstimulated. I know that’s what’s happening and have read that you need to watch for the signs. Tail swishing, ears twitching, etc. The problem is, he doesn’t always give off these signals. Are there signals we’re missing or other tells we should watch out for? Thanks, I know you guys are busy, I figured it couldn’t hurt to ask. 🙂

    1. Donald G.   June 28, 2014 at 12:09 am  

      Play is an integral part of a healthy lifestyle for cats, by integrating this you relieve built up frustration; kind of like going for a run or a swim on a stressful day, it just helps.


  8. myra   July 27, 2012 at 1:24 pm  

    hello i have a beautiful female tuxedo her name is dutchess we got her since she was only 6 weeks old but as she started to get bigger i would say around 7 to 8 months she has turned into a hell cat we love her very much she gets nothing but love 24/7 NOW SHES 3 YEARS OLD she doesn’t want you to pet her at all every time i try and bites the shit out of me she hiss and gives me the evil eyes its like she doesn’t want to be loved no one that comes over can pet her she lays there in front of you but don’t touch her it seems like she only loves me when feed her oh yea when she hears that can opener she jumps on the counter and rubs on me but after she eats that’s it leave me alone and when i am all alone i call her so she can come to me and she wont when i grab her to pet her she starts to bite me and hiss so i can let her go. now she sleeps with us at the end of the bed but don’t touch her or shell leave i don’t understand her and i love her so much it i just want to cuddle with her like i used to when she was a baby. and its funny because she loves her bath i have no issues with that at all. and she uses her litter box to i clean it for her every day. and yes i play with her a lot she has a lot of toys and every thing goes well there its just the don’t pet me policy lol any advice for me even way before i know about this show my friends and family always say i have a cat from hell every one tells me get rid of her but i will never do it until death do us part i can see in her eyes she really loves me but she doesn’t know how to show it i wish jackson could meet her but i live in Florida. please any one has the same issue let me know what works for you thank you so much for your time

    1. Laila   July 27, 2012 at 6:21 pm  

      I have the exact same issue and my cat acts exactly the same, my problem is that i have to travel to another country shortly and since she acts like this i think she will escape from her carrier or make me regret thinking of taking her with me, the flight will take all day and i’m not allowed to bring her to the cabin, i’m terribly sad that my cat hates me after so long, and that because of her behaviour i’ll have to give her away, i’m crying because i love her to death and i feel so hurt by her biting and scratching, i can’t even go near her anymore, i miss her so much, please, please help me, and i live in syria, so i can’t purchase any of your products.

    2. Lindsay   May 5, 2013 at 10:11 am  

      Hi Myra,

      Have you taken your cat to the vet? It sounds like she is acting like she’s in pain. I had a cat who turned aggressive and it turned out that she had a tumor on the base of her tail that was causing her a lot of pain. I hope that helps!

  9. Michelle   July 27, 2012 at 4:36 pm  

    Hello! My family has two cats, one is 8 1/2 and one is 2, they are indoor/outdoor cats. We live in a woodsy area, and never had issues until a year ago, our older cat got a scratch or knick that ended up causing an abscess in his cheek that ended up requiring surgery and a tube in his cheek for a week. Just yesterday we ended having to take him in because his tongue appeared swollen and it turned out his salivary gland was blocked, which required surgery.
    We have decided both of our cats need to transition to being indoor cats(if that’s possible), and we are moving to a more suburban area(which translates to more traffic), and therefore has cemented our decision to make the transition. I know it’ll make both of my cats very unhappy to lose outdoor privileges, but my family and I are dedicated to make a fun indoor habitat for them, but knowing they are used to having free time outdoors is there anything we can do inside to make the transition easier for them besides just strategically placing shelves?
    We have a pretty big and tall cat tree already, and we have a harness and leash and are willing to take them for walks. Also, our younger cat claws things when she gets impatient or antsy and wants out, and way to stop that since free time outdoors won’t be happening.

    1. ML   August 1, 2014 at 5:52 pm  

      I just discovered this website so sorry for the late reply.

      My brother built a cat enclosure for his kitties. It had a pet door that led inside to a bedroom window so the cats could go inside and “outside”. The enclosure was not that large but it allowed the cats to have fresh air.

  10. Sally   July 28, 2012 at 3:55 pm  

    Hi, we have four female cats, all spayed and raised together, none declawed. They all have different personalities but as Angela once said on The Office about her cats: “there’s bad blood, jealousies: cliques.” In 28 years of marriage, our family has always had cats usually in multiples and thought we knew a lot about them. Recently our most dominant cat, Cinnamon, has begun not exactly peeing but spraying certain areas, usually around me (I am the main caretaker). I have tried usual behavior modification activities — which require lots of patience — took her to the vet for a check up, have tried changing things around a little. We have added litter boxes to some areas, which do get used by various cats, but this has not really stopped her. Recently we bought a lavendar and pheromone infused collar at a chain store thinking it couldn’t hurt and it didn’t (plus it smells good) and it may have even reduced these events somewhat, but it has not stopped them. Now I think a second cat has begun peeing, only caught her once but have seen actual puddles here and there throughout the house. We really don’t want an entire house smelling of pee! Any thoughts?

  11. Shanelle   July 29, 2012 at 3:29 pm  

    Please help! I absolutely love and adore my 4 year old Siamese/Snowshoe mix. Her name is Kirra. She’s extremely aggressive, and I don’t know what to do anymore. She was a bottle-fed kitten from the time she was a week old, and she is very attached to me and no one else. My husband and I have tried everything–cat trees, jingly balls, crinkly balls, feathers on sticks, mice on sticks, mice not on sticks, scratching posts, walks–all of it. She wants nothing to do with any of it. She has randomly and occasionally had “episodes” in the past where she runs around the house screaming at the top of her lungs and defecating as she runs circles. We’ve tried changing her food, changing her litter, giving her space, and we’re basically at the end of our ropes. We just had our first baby 4 months ago, and I am absolutely terrified that she is going to hurt our child when she gets old enough to try to grab the “pretty fluffy thing.” She has bitten me multiple times–she bit through two of my fingers completely once–she has bitten my husband and has chased him through the kitchen attacking him violently. She never pees anywhere she isn’t supposed to in order to mark, but she sharpens her claws on the corners of walls and in window sills. I don’t know what this could be besides possibly that she has some sort of mental issue. She has always been an indoor cat and has never been injured in any major way–besides being stepped on once by me when I was pregnant and she for some reason didn’t get mad about that at all. She just looked at me and jumped into my arms and purred. I don’t understand what is causing this crazy behavior. Sorry for the long comment. I’m just at my wits end and I absolutely do not want to have to re-home my kitty girl, but she can’t stay here if she’s a threat to my daughter.

    1. myra   July 30, 2012 at 12:18 pm  

      hi i am myra comment #16 i am still waiting for my reply but it sucks don’t it it really hurts when you raise something so small and then it turns on you i know what your felling but be very careful with the baby and lets wait and see what they tell us me my opinion i really don’t think they will change may be as they get older or it will get better or worse . good luck

  12. Kendal   July 31, 2012 at 9:57 am  

    First to Shanelle, To put it bluntly, you’ll find that it’s 99% likely its you that is making your cats nuts. I know, I bottle fed Jaz, and got my next 3 at 4 weeks old. I learned the hard way. Check up first, but I bet she hasn’t detached from you. Kittens have to depend on Feline Mom to show them how to act like a cat. She didn’t have a feline Mom. If your like me you feel overly protective, and she isn’t able to learn how to act like a cat. She wants to act on instinct, but your human behavior is confusing her. Read the rest of my post and hopefully that will help you understand. At least until your questions answered (:

    I’ve lived with cats and dogs all my life, I had a wolf when I was 6, got her when she was a pup, her Mom killed by hunters.. I had her until I was 9. But I’ve always been a cat person. I lived with as few as one cat, and on the rez we had a colony of 23. I thought I new how to deal with cats. It’s only after Jaz died, 19 years of age, and 5 years into adopting the 3 born under our house 2 1/2 months after she died that I’m finally getting it. It took a big brick to the head called “Caught a Clue” First many problems were due to my extreme mood swings. So I’m dealing with that. Fix your human self first, cats will follow. Trust me when I say I have to live with a lot of guilt. I

    know I’m a great cat guardian now, not a bad one before, just clueless. Jaz passed away on Jan 6th 2007. Merlin, Alexa and Tau; were allput into my life for a reason. Now I deal with them on their terms. Merlin goes off, I would go nuts looking for him, he wouldn’t show himself. Well duh he was feeling my anger & fear, so why would he? I come inside, calm down, and he shows up. I shut the window and he doesn’t get to go outside for awhile. Yes it is fenced, but with cats where their will wants to go they will find a way. 1 1/2 more weeks the parts of the yard that is fenced in by chain link, only 6 feet will be replace with an 8 foot cedar fence.

    I had ignored cat hierarchic, with humans are instinct is to protect the runt. Stand and protect her food, protect her form the big bad bullies. Tau was the runt, and Alexa got treated like the third wheel. It went against their very instinct, but they were afraid of me the dominant human/cat. I didn’t realize I was making things worse for them. Oh they all love me, but let me tell you they still love me now even more now that I let them be who they are meant to be. Even if it takes all my human will to ignore. The only time I interfere is if one of them is giving the submissive pose and Merlin is still pestering them . Then I get him, hold him down to the ground, hold his scruff until he has submitted. For the most part we have a peaceful and happy home, they can go do their thing, and it’s a joy to watch them all blossom with more confidence. They jump, run and climb trees. They hunt bugs and chase each other around the yard. I’m far from perfect, so I watch “My Cat from Hell” because even an old cat like me can still learn new tricks.

    I think Alex might have a bit of a vision problem, I’ve learned where her vision isn’t as good, and try to avoid
    coming to her in the problem area. It seems to be working. I hope my partner gets a job soon so I can take her to the vets. Time for her full check-up.

    Kendal & Jules.
    Guardians of Merlin, Alexa and Tau

  13. Shanelle   July 31, 2012 at 12:56 pm  

    Kendal–I’ve been raising cats from kitten litters since I was 5 years old. This isn’t a socialization issue, and when she freaks out for someone LOOKING at her from across the room and runs around spraying diarrhea and screaming at the top of her lungs, that is not something that I am doing to her by “driving her crazy.” 2 of her litter mates had seizures as diagnosed by our veterinarian. One of them died from them at 10 weeks of age. I’m almost certain this is an anatomical brain problem, but I was hoping for advice on how to approach her behavior when she is having an episode in order to soothe her and not exacerbate the situation further. She has been socialized with other cats. She wasn’t the only one in the household, as she was brought up with her mother in my home and her siblings in my home as well–the mother cat was just very, very small and incapable of supporting her litter. She stopped producing milk, and the babies began to starve, so I started helping her. I disengage Kirra now when she is having an episode in an attempt to not overstimulate her. Her veterinarian has said that it would cost hundreds of dollars to get x-rays and medication in order to figure out the problem–which we can’t afford with a new baby–and if we took her to a shelter for aid, the shelters here have stated she would be put down for aggression. I appreciate you trying to help.
    Maya–Thank you for the kind words. I love my kitty. She has always been there for me. She follows me around the house, jumps into my arms when I’m standing near her, and she gives me kisses when I’m feeling down. It does break my heart that she is going through this, and I’m hoping we can help her. I know re-homing her or sending her to a shelter would be a nightmare. I couldn’t live with myself knowing that she would possibly be mistreated or misunderstood and likely be put down because no one else has the emotional attachment to her that I do.

    1. Shanelle   July 31, 2012 at 12:59 pm  

      *Myra, not Maya. Sorry lol. =)

  14. Megan   August 1, 2012 at 8:11 am  

    I have a cat who is really mean. For a while we’ll be outside, and he’ll be sitting on my lap, then he’ll get off, so I’ll get up, then he will attack me. Also, when the other cats come around, he gets really aggressive.

  15. julianne   August 1, 2012 at 1:12 pm  

    howdy, i have a six year old blk/wht cat named Lily that adopted us from a shelter at a few months old. Lily is very friendly, playful and chatty, however she is not a lap cat and dont ever scratch her belly or low back as she will claw/bite.

    we need help with the following. she has taken to peeing on things, mostly my 16 year old sons things and her own stuff. the smell just doesn’t leave so i have throw out beds, rugs, clothes you name it. Lily and my son are best buds, they sleep together and everything. at first I thought she ws tageting his things thinking it is because he has stinky boy puberty smell but now she has taken up droping a pile of poo in the dining room twice and now in the living room. i am fed up.

    she has been given love and attention, play time you name it…have no idea what to do but at this point she is living out on the deck. what do you suggest?

    prior to this week when the poo started and I put her out, she hung out near her food bowl in the kitchen or would follow you into the kitchen like she is starving even though she eats 2xs a day and is a big girl, what is up with that??

  16. Bob   August 1, 2012 at 11:11 pm  

    Great site,and great info, Jackson rules,
    We have a calico named Violet she is now 4 years old,Shs recently started pooping on the floor
    Never did this before and her litter box is always clean,We don’t know why she is doing it
    The only thing we can think of is she sees outside cats walking around outside our house and is marking
    her territory????
    Any thoughts or comments are welcome.Thanks.

  17. Kendal   August 2, 2012 at 7:32 am  

    Hi Shanelle,

    We both watch My cat from hell right? Granted I haven’t seen every episode (: but did you see the recent episode with Riley (think that was the cats name)? Turns out the husband was unintentionally making the cat afraid. Them same episode with the blind cat that traumatized by the little boy turning to pet the cat after the dog and she didn’t see him coming. It could be both medical and something similar happened to Kirra. Jaz was very loving with my partner, she was much calmer then me and I know Jaz loved her as much as me. But one time she went up to J rubbed her face then bit her neck. Never happened again. J probably did something unintentional and it triggered something in Jaz to react.

    We got our first dog and cat in 1968, I was 5. We didn’t know things then that we sure know now. Vets used to diagnose skin problems in cats & dogs as flea allergies, but now they know stress causes a lot of health issues. I know you love her, and it is hard . Sounds as if you could really use Jackson! Find a cat rescue and talk to someone else, not that you don’t have the experience, but we need an outsider that isn’t emotionally connected. I remember being frustrated with not understanding Alexa’s need to go outside the box. Talking to someone else really helped, they were feral born and she was marking her territory and getting used to being separated from her feline Mama. . I stopped worrying about the mess and put a box near where she was marking. Soon as I calmed down she stopped going outside the box. I was then able to move it back with the others.

    I really hope you get help, there isn’t anything better then being a cat guardian.

  18. Dianda   August 4, 2012 at 1:17 am  

    One of my cats doesn’t really like being petted, so we play with her every day instead. And in return she’ll come up to us in the afternoon, everyday at the same time, and she just wants to be petted. It usually lasts for 10 til 15 minutes, and then she’s gone again. Haha.
    I love the way Jackson explains this. 🙂

  19. trisha   August 4, 2012 at 12:10 pm  

    hey i was just wondering if you have any advice on a cat who pulls out there fur all the time and trys to run away at every chance he gets he is about nine years old and beats up my dads cat and his cat refuses to come out from under there bed shell come out but when she sees people she runs right back under

    1. Rhonda   May 24, 2013 at 3:38 pm  

      I know this post is old, but we had a cat, Sasha that used to pull her fur out. Come to find out she was diabetic and so stressed out from all the visits to the Vet. When we cut back on the visits she quit pulling out her fur!! So between her diabetes and the amount of stress from all the vet visits (at least 3 a week due to trying to get it under control, her diabetes that is) is why she constanly pulled out her fur. She was almost balled by the time we put it al together. Her fur did grow back just so you know. We felt awful and that we let her down as her parents, but in a weird way, I can’t explain it, Sasha really seemed to understand that all we were doing was helping her, but in the only way she could, pulling out fur, she tried telling us that something was wrong. Hope this helps.

    2. Sarah   January 16, 2014 at 8:43 pm  

      I had an older calico that spent most of her life pulling out her own fur and licking holes in herself. We inherited her at about 7 or 8 years old.
      We finally found a vet who could think outside of the box. He said it looked like a condition called “rodent ulcers”. With a healthy dose of OCD. We tried various tranquilizers and sedatives before we hit on success: depo shots. To minimize the mental trauma, the vet ultimately allowed me to do the shots at home one every three months and our Shadow girl became a loving and attentive furry friend.

      1. Emily   March 21, 2014 at 11:06 am  

        My calico also has the rodent ulcers and a bit of OCD. For us, the problem turned out to be food allergies. Removing grain from her diet solved the ulcers, which reduced the chewing. She still has some scaly, red patches sometimes and I am currently trying to find the best proteins and food to alleviate it.

        What is depo?

  20. terry   August 4, 2012 at 7:29 pm  

    My cat bites me just out of the blue. I’m not even touching him. I’ll be laying in bed and if I have any skin showing he bites me. Why does he do this and how can I fix it. He bit me so hard last year that my hand swelled up amd I had to go to the hospital. Thank You.

  21. Lynett   August 6, 2012 at 9:55 am  

    Hello ~ I have a 3 year old Tabby cat that I adopted when he was not even a year old. Anyway…heres some of the things that our cat, “Goofy” seems to do that would could use some help with. I watch your show hoping to find someone that has a simular situation. Goofy likes to pull his hair out from his lower back by his tail and leave piles of hair on the floor in which ever room he seems to be in. That’s not is…he also can be very friendly and rubs up against our legs, then turn around and attack our legs. I have tried to walk away and sit down when he get like that, but he will come hunt me down and attack more. He has been known to jump up in the chair to bite my arms and also lunge at my face. I have discussed this with our vet and they say it’s Anxiety and have giving me pills to give him. I must say, It does work WHEN & IF I’m able to give them to him. I really don’t like giving him medication and just wonder if there is something we can do that would help whatever it is that makes him feel that way. I’ve seen your show and it all makes sense as to what you recommend for homework and have seen the changes it makes in the cats behavior. I would love to get any suggestions you might have.
    If you ever get to Iowa, we would love to invite you to our home and introduce you to our fun, loving (most of the time) Goofy! ~ Thanks!

  22. Lindsay   August 6, 2012 at 1:17 pm  

    Hi Jackson,

    I have a 1 and a half year old Javanese cat, Mia. Mia has been aggressive since the day I got her when she was 10 weeks old. She was socialized by her mother, other kittens, and even played with children before arriving to me.
    She commonly gets over stimulated and you need to remove yourself from her. Not a huge issue as I look for the signs.
    She now has begun to dig her teeth into me. I will walk across the room, my leg becomes a tree branch; I sit on the couch, she comes over and lays into my arm at full force.
    I try to remove her and she attacks me harder, kicks, claws, and bites.
    I’m truly at a loss as nothing seems to get her to stop. I’ve tried putting her in her carrier for 5 minutes after being attacked (while not touching her beforehand).
    I love her, she’s my baby, but this situation is getting out of hand. I do play with her constantly (she loves fetch & wand toys).

  23. Danielle   August 6, 2012 at 11:41 pm  

    Hi Jackson,
    I have a rescue cat. His name is Rugby. He’s a short haired black kitten. He pretty much looks like the moses kitten described in the James Herriot books. I found him on the side of the road when he was about 3 wks old right before a big blizzard hit. He was incredibly affectionate and didn’t once run away. As a matter of fact he ran to us (probably because he was half starved). He has since hefted up. Ever since I moved into an apartment and away from my parents’ house he has had these sporadic and odd episodes where he attacks me. He has bitten other people who come to my apartment to visit randomly. Three times he has attacked me and I don’t mean tiny scratches. He has sunk his teeth and claws in and used his whole body weight while dug into me. Once he got me while I was asleep. It wasn’t fun to wake up to. He just tonight got me in the temple on the side of my face. These events are rare and have several months between their occurances. He isn’t threatened or even stimulated when the events happen. He just attacks out of the blue. Immediately after his eyes seem to slide back into focus and he lets go and hides. He’s incredibly docile after that. I”m worried he might have something wrong with him. I take him out for walks and play with him. He isn’t threatened by anything, there’s no other animal inside the apartment. I’m almost tempted to get him tested for Bartonella. What do you think? I would really value your advice. I love this cat and I always will but the fact that he has latched onto my face and scalp on three separate ocassions is starting to scare me.

  24. Elizabeth   August 11, 2012 at 8:44 pm  

    Thanks for the tip Jackson! My grandma just adopted a 7 year old orange tabby from the pound. He’s had lot of homes in his life that didn’t work out so we don’t know a lot about his personality. He comes up and wants petting by rubbing against me but after a while he’ll nip me and I wasn’t sure why. He nips and then rubs against me as if to say “sorry, I didn’t mean that. Pet me again!” after seeing that video I’ll play with him when I come over to tire him out before sitting down to pet him 🙂

  25. Mark   August 12, 2012 at 9:12 am  

    I have a cat who will attack sometimes, usually jumping up and biting our legs. Sometimes, its biting our arms. When he does this, he puts his ears back which I understand is an indicator of fear. But it seems more like he is playing when he does this. It happens maybe once or twice a week and usually does not last more than a few minutes. He also sometimes bites after we’ve been petting him for a while (he loves to lay on our laps or right next to us). Not really sure what to do, as we are concerned he may do this when our grandchildren are around (they are 4 & 2). With the grandchildren, he is always around them, but will run away if they try to pet him. Recommendations?

  26. Diana Catalina   August 14, 2012 at 12:01 pm  

    I have a pretty beautiful cat, it is 13 months old and I adopted it about a year ago. I’m worried because I’m noting that it is getting aggresive specially when I’m combing its belly, it happens a long time ago,it doesn’t has an explanation, even the veterinary knows why it’s happening.
    By the other hand, Lucca (my cat) gets “mad” when we visit the vet’s consultory to vaccinate it or cut its nails.
    What may I do?

  27. Kathryn   September 1, 2012 at 6:51 pm  

    Hi, My boyfriend and I have a one year old cat named Stella. She’s awesome! Stella likes to bite and yell in the morning very early in the morning sometimes 4am everyday until someone gets out of bed to just be in another room of the apartment with her. It’s like she just doesn’t want us in bed in the morning. How do we stop this behavior ? We play with her for a good 30 mins or longer if we have the time right before bed. She has food in her dish, it’s not like she’s starving, I just don’t know if there’s anything we are missing here… Thank you!

  28. Ricky   October 14, 2012 at 3:56 pm  

    My cat Prim is 5 months old. and continually climbs the curtains in my bed room, she also bites and straches my hands and arms when being held or petted. And today my dad was over and reached down to pet and she bit him. What are the proper ways to go about disiplining her? Please help



  29. Autumn l   November 4, 2012 at 8:47 pm  

    I have recently got my first cat 8 weeks first day non stop crying I let it in my room it stops but keeps me up all night is there Still hope of bed training it

  30. Kendra   December 9, 2012 at 8:28 am  

    This post may have just saved my cat Frankenstein (3 yrs old) from being put to sleep. He’s nipped at/ran away from/hissed at my BF’s 6-year-old all his life…he’s very sensitive about being petted too much to start, but having a child around (who has always tested his limits, ie: rough play, running & jumping at the cat, etc.), makes him even more anxious. We’ve tried to train Junior not to pet him AT ALL, but he can’t help himself…he’s a child. Our female cat is the total opposite, she will lay around, purr and snuggle with Junior till the cows come home…this of course makes him want to do this with Frankenstein even more…he talks to that cat as if they were siblings! He truly loves him. The icing on the cake is, My BF AND his son are both allergic. 🙁 I wasn’t in the room, but this morning, Frankie apparently hissed and gave Jr. a bite on his hand while he was petting him. OUR first reaction is to let Jr. know that he shouldn’t be petting the cat at all…but that’s hard to do when his feelings are genuinely hurt…the bite wasn’t vicious…didn’t break the skin, it was just a warning (or the balloon popping I guess). Since Jr. is allergic, it immediately got puffy, which made him even more alarmed. I can’t have a cat around that bites children, that’s a fact…but I’m praying there’s hope of using this advice with a 6-year-old…because it’s breaking my heart to think of getting rid of my kitty 🙁

  31. Chris   January 8, 2013 at 8:31 pm  

    Hello everyone & Jackson
    Have this little problem, I have a great cat that is now a chewer. He wasnt when we got him from the shelter, it didnt start happening until he started to loose his kitten teeth, now he chews on everything includeing power cords and occasionaly gnawing me and my wife’s fingers while were sleeping. He is gentle about it and after petting him he will stop and go about his kitty rounds.
    Any idea on how I can stop the chewing? I really dont care about the late night cuddle/ gnaws, its the chewing on the power cords that worries me.

    Thanks all,

  32. amber   February 28, 2013 at 11:31 am  

    Does anyone have any recommendations on where to find assistance with this issue? I am moving my 6 cats, dog, and myself into a place by myself within a couple of weeks. Most everybody gets along great, and I am aware of the typical suggestions to get everyone used to their new place. I have multiple pieces of cat furniture and will bring as much familiar to them as possible, as well as create a lot of climbing opportunities in the new house. My two girl cats do not get along a lot of the time (the other 4 are boys). They got to the point where one largely stays upstairs and the other stays downstairs, but the one upstairs will often hiss and chase the other one back down the stairs if she tries to come up. We are moving into a one story house. I wish I had someone like Jackson in my area to help, but I don’t know how to best help them adjust. I know they’ll all have to sort out their new territories, but anywhere else I could look online for assistance?


  33. Linda   March 11, 2013 at 8:38 am  

    My cat Gizzy is 2yo. He’s a great cat but only toward my daughter and myself. He was bottle feed by me. I took to a vet who told me that I did the worst thing to him and that cats like him are put down. Gizzy really had no choice he was found in a garbage in a shoe box. So my daughter who was about 3yo at the time said ” bb it” bottle feed it. So I called a shelter they told me how.

  34. Kristen   April 30, 2013 at 8:36 am  

    I have a 2 year ragdoll cat that hates to be brushed. I don’t know what to do because this breed can be prone to matting. I have tried playing with her, wearing her out then I attempt to brush her and she is still aggressive. I’ve tried letting her smell and sniff the brush, still aggressive and I have tried using different brushes and the result…Aggressive. She yowls, bites and tries to attack me no matter what brush or method I try to use. Any tips? I’ve been trying to brush her since she was a kitten and still to this day, she hates being brushed.

    1. Dee   July 8, 2013 at 10:16 pm  

      Hi Kristen, Jackson,& Staff, I have a few problems myself, which I will certainly ask for help from whomever was in similar situations as myself. But, I wanted to let you know first what I had purchased that may also help you. I purchased a type of mit, with rubber thingies all over it. Its for cats. It’s actually to assist with excess loose fur removal or massage, may help with keeping the fur a bit less matted? I believe they also sell gloves or mitts that have a sandpaper texture, like a kittens moms toungue:o) They sell them cheap in Walmart. Maybe can even find online?

      I have two rescue kittens, had since a few weeks old, found eating roadkill on the side of the road, now 8 months. Boy and girl siblings, one large fluffy cream color, Shrek, the other, a small tabby Fiona. She’s a scaredy cat, though she cuddles with me only, not my husband or anyone else. Shrek, is more friendlier, cuddles with husband, but mostly me. But Shrek gets quite aggressive with his sister. No matter if she is playing nicely by herself, lounging, eating, or just sleeping, etc…he has to get in there and bully her, for no reason. Then, a bit later, they are lovey dovey. I get so angry when I see her so peaceful, the I hear her crying. I get the spray bottle. It only works for a short time,then back to it again. I tried seperating them for a half hour or so, I always play with their toys with them and play games with them, kiss them, love them, being disabled, both my husband and I, this aggression Shrek shows to his sister (we had both spayed/neutered) is really taking toll on us. We would never consider getting rid of them, we just have to figure out what are we doing wrong. It appears that Shrek does get jealous of Fiona at times. I make sure to show both equal attention, as much as I can. I feed them extremely well. Always clean litter boxes, lots of toys, they have their own toy box:o), a large four tier tree; an outside, screened in porch (2nd floor),indoor kitties only, we do spend much of our disability money caring for them. What more can we do? Where did we go wrong? Does any of you know of a similar show on an issue such as ours? Has anyone gone through similar? Thank you so much, in advance for any responses. God bless.

  35. Amie   May 18, 2013 at 8:16 am  

    My 4 year old Siamese has taken to biting me when she wants something. She breaks skin and there in lies the problem. I am very allergic to cat bites – antibiotics for 15 days to IV treatment for 6 weeks. What can I do?

  36. Ashley Thomas   May 20, 2013 at 6:09 am  

    I have a 9 month old Siamese mix and he LOVES to play! but he thinks that playing is just biting and attacking, he doesn’t seem to understand that biting isn’t good. I’ve told him no in a stern voice and even spanked him. He will “hide” and jump out at us and bite us anywhere he pleases. He is definitely a hunter and loves the game so he plays like that alot. He really is a sweet cat in his own way, his way is just aggressive. We adopted him at the animal shelter when he was 4 weeks old and at the time I was pregnant, he would lay on my stomach and the baby would kick him. My son is 3 months old now and Jagger (the cat) will not touch him, he hasn’t tried to play with him curl up with him anything, He does watch him and lay beside him but he has done so great with not wanting to play. He is absolutely a sweetie pie and loves other animals and people he just doesn’t understand that you can’t play so aggressively, I just got another kitten he is 5 weeks old now and Jagger loves him they are constantly playing but Jagger gets to excited and ends up hurting him, but the kitten loves Jagger. I’m just worried Jagger will teach the kitten that is how you play. How do I teach him it isn’t ok to play like that?

  37. Hiro   May 26, 2013 at 11:16 pm  

    My new 9 month old cat Itachi, I believe is part Siamese keeps biting me. My arms,hands and toes. I’ ll try to walk and he goes after my toes. I’ll be sitting and he’ll come up and bite my arms or hand. I have tried tapping his nose, he’ll turn around and bite harder. I have said no sternly, bites harder. I even got so mad that I smacked his bottom.(which I know I shouldn’t have) he stopped for the night but next day he did it again. I had very little success with bitter apple, but he’ll bite once then stop, but will bite again after that. He’s a good cat who loves attention and being patted, but I’m at my wits end. I don’t want to be bit anymore.

  38. Ronnie   June 15, 2013 at 7:59 pm  

    Hi there. I have a three month old tuxedo boy named Faeolan who I’m afraid is already being set into some bad habbits. I’m hoping since he’s still so young thay I can nip this in the butt before it’s too late. He has some play aggression that, because he’s getting bigger, he’s starting to hurt me. He is in constant play mode, and will even wake up mid nap to play. Now in this “play mode,” he doesn’t really use his claws on me so much as his teeth. Biting seems to be his only way of playing with me. He mostly bites my fingers, feet, and any loose clothing, but seems very good about knowing not to bite my face, although he did get my lip once, and I made sure to let him know that wasn’t okay. He’s on a pretty set schedule, getting two very high energy play times, usually a half hour each, one mid day and another before dinner (hunt, catch, eat). But still his want to play is never ending. I know kittens love to play, and I don’t want him to stop playing, I just want him to stop biting me eveytime I try to give him love. It seems affection isn’t very high on his list of priorities. I’ve always saved cats from rescues, adoption centers, or bad situations, but this time I got a kitten so that he would really be “mine.” I wanted to instill in him the want for love and physical contact. He does sleep with me at night, but he’s slowly getting more distant even at bed time. We nap together too. But I just cannot pet him, ever! He thinks everytime I go to pet him that it means play. How do I get him to stop biting and want to be petted? Is there anyway I can get our relationship a little tighter?

    1. Team Cat Mojo   June 17, 2013 at 10:57 am  

      Hi there Ronnie — Even though it sounds like you’re doing good job with the two set playtimes each day, it may be that Faeolan (great name!) needs even more play to really drain his batteries each day. For more detailed help, there’s the Int’l Assoc. of Animal Behaviorists you can reach out to (http://iaabc.org), or contact the folks at Jackson’s online store and see what they think or can recommend.

  39. Amy   June 26, 2013 at 7:24 am  

    I have a 7ish yo cat, Reginald, who i found a few years ago sleeping in my garden when i moved into my house. Nobody in the street knew who he was or where he came from. he would approach to be petted, but would become very aggressive suddenly. Slowly, i have tried to socialise him, and he is, for the most part, an indoor cat. But he bites and attacks quite often, particularly if you try to walk past him, he will lunge at my leg.
    He can be very loving, and the vet thinks there is nothing physically wrong with him. We bought him a lazer toy, which he absolutely loves, but still he bites. i should also add it is just me, not my husband or teenage son, who he is fine with. i take notice of what his tail is doing as to whether he is going to bite!

  40. MItz   July 27, 2013 at 9:12 pm  

    I have a 3 year old neutered male cat. The neighbors daughter absolutely loves him, and he’s never had any issue with her petting him, or draggin him around on the leash. The other day, I took him over to see her, and she was petting him, and he pushed his head into her hand, tilted his head, and she petted him again, he pushed into her hand again, except this time, when his front feet went flat onto the ground, he turned to the side,and attacked her! only one paw got hold, he apparently pushed off her with the other three. There was absolutely NO! reason for this to happen! No lowering of the ears, no twitching of the tail, no growl, no hiss NO indications that he was going to attack. After he did it, he curled up in a ball, tail tucked, feet curled under him, head down, all submissive like he KNOWS! he did wrong. Why’s he doing this?

  41. Stephie   September 13, 2013 at 3:36 am  

    Hi there Team Mojo/ Jackson,

    My mum has a 3yr old cat named Percy who her been biting her so badly lately that she has thought about giving him away. Mum bought him for me as a present when I split from my husband, he has always lived at mums house and is an indoor cat and gets let out to wonder around the yard maybe twice a week. I only moved from mums house about six months ago so I can guarantee his problems do not relate to this, as he has been biting and attack since he was maybe 6 months old. The time that is of the most concern is in the mornings, he will go into mums bedroom, jump up on the bed and wake her and very soon after will attack her biting and scratching with his back legs. She recently had to go on a course of antibiotics as he hit the bone in her forearm in one of these morning attacks. We are aware that he probably wants her to get up and feed him, but it happens so quickly and he has always slept in the bed with her so shutting the door might be cruel. He also attacks at other times like when being petted or when we’re walking around the house but look – any help or feedback about this would help sooo much as I cannot take him myself because my boyfriend is allergic, plus mum loves him and really doesn’t want to have to give him up. Please help!

  42. Rose   September 22, 2013 at 3:04 pm  

    Hi, my cat is a 3 year old spayed female with claws intact. She use to be a distant otherwise normal great cat. This past year she has turned into the most affectionate cat. I cannot sit down w/o her jumping on my lap asking to be pet. She rubs her head on my hand, waits to make eye contact before she starts to meow. Immediately after I begin to pet her she drops down in the most uncomfortable looking positions to us humans and starts purring her head off. If you stop for a second she panics and looks for your hand. She is the most content cat in the world. However, in the middle of all of this at completely random times she will snap and bite my hand as hard as she can and run away. I know I’m not causing her pain b/c I pet her in the same area sometimes for 5 minutes and sometimes for an hour before she attacks. I stop petting when she stops purring. I pet her less to prevent it from happening but she enjoys and continuously asks for it so much so it doesn’t feel right. She begs to be pet, won’t leave you alone until you pet her and then bites you(sometimes breaking skin) and runs off. I played with her constantly for many hours at a time to where she has to stop to catch her breath. Basically until she’s content, I won’t force her. I’ve also tried playing with her a lot less for months now and have noticed no change in her overall behavior. And there’s been no changes in our household.

  43. Debbie   September 29, 2013 at 9:06 am  

    Hi everyone x My problem is probably different to most of you (with regard to their personalities), in that I have 5 rescue cats. Rigsby and the gang (who are all related) and unfortunately Rigsby, Rhia and Ribbon (the kittens of Roxy) have a disability of their legs which means that they are much shorter ones than a normal cats. Albert came later – luckily there were no huge problems with integrating them all. The problem I have is that Rhia and Ribbon were never socialized whilst they were at the cat rescue. The cat rescue lady liked Rigsby a lot and Roxy had come from a home previously so they are ok. However Rhia and Ribbon are a different matter.We have had them now since they were 10 months old and they are 2 and a half now. The vet said not to bother trying to socialize them now as it needs to start happening when they are only a few weeks old. I don’t mind the fact that they are so timid but the real problem is that I can not catch them when they need to go for their vaccines – last time (Aug this year) Rhia pulled some of her claws out in the hall carpet running away from us! If you manage to corner Ribbon she cowers and then lets you pick her up. Rhia on the otherhand runs off and when we manage to catch her she cries(upset and frightened not aggressively) The sad thing is,is that they both want to be stroked (Rhia sits at my feet looking up at me) but they are so timid that as soon as you get near them or reach out to them, they dart off. We have a 4 bed roomed house and a large garden away from the road and they are all happy with their own territory, no problems with food, they have plenty of toys which they all have their favorites and which they play with on their own or with us – even Rhia and Ribbon. All of them will sit in the lounge with us at varying distances. We are a family of 4 – me and my husband, a 11 year old boy and a 14 teenage year old boy. We are a very quiet introverted family, so they do not have a lot of shouting etc to deal with. I’ve tried various things including calming holistic therapies, playing with their toys, coaxing with food to no avail. If I could just get them so that they didn’t run away from me – that would be an achievement and all I could ask for. Thank you in advance Debbie x

  44. Dianne   October 12, 2013 at 7:49 pm  

    I have a 12 year old cat that is THE CAT FROM HELL
    She does not let anyone in my home.. scratches, bites, hisses. You name it… she does it.
    Everyone says she is territorial.. and protective of me.
    When ever I have anyone over, I have to put her in the bedroom until my company leaves.
    Just don’t know what to do with her.
    Any suggestions are welcome.

  45. veronica   December 1, 2013 at 9:24 pm  

    i was wondering how to train my 6 month old kitten. he bites at play,he bites at my feet,nips everyones hands.sctratches.plus when ur petting him and hes loving on u he nips at ur fingers etc. what do i do. sorry for my spelling as u know my cats is taking of with my glasses or i miss place them i just think my cat took them this time.

  46. Linda   December 4, 2013 at 5:04 am  

    Hi, my sisters cat we call the devil cat is a beautiful cat but has the problem of hissing,biting and scratching even though she is declawed( not a fan of having a cat declawed) sometimes when guest come to the house she greets them but after that she turns evil. Why is that?

  47. Cindy hyden   December 10, 2013 at 9:17 pm  

    My two year old female cat recently was spayed, unfortunately she was pregnant at the time and I didnt know. Since then ss has been having I$sues and Oi dont know what to do about them. Mainly she is mean to the other two cats who she always go tv along with, an4 she will be laying in my lap letting me love on her, seemingly fine, and then suddenly scratch me and growl. Please help, I miss my baby.

  48. Gaston   January 4, 2014 at 6:27 pm  

    Hello, I have a cat named Africa, she is 6 years old. She lives locked in a hole and just go out to eat or relieve himself but never can touch, we can not even approach it because it runs through. Awaiting find a way to get her out of there to live happier.
    What we recommend to improve your life?

  49. Lavanda   January 8, 2014 at 4:00 pm  

    My cat who is a little less than 1 year old likes to attack only me if I don’t pet her when she wants to be pet. Even bites me while she is being pet. She loves me and I am her main caretaker but she gets aggressive when she wants to be petted. Yes playing with her wears her down and makes her lie down and go to sleep but I want to be able to pet her without having to worry about being scratched or bit. Another thing that calms her down is putting her in a room by herself. But I hate having to do that and she yowls the whole time. I need help if anyone knows how to fix this! I love her to death and she is my baby but she attacks me if I don’t give her what she wants, she doesn’t do that to my husband. She is persistent and comes back for more no matter how many times you replace her elsewhere.

  50. Amanda   January 28, 2014 at 6:07 pm  

    I have a 2 year old female cat who is not declawed, is spayed and was adopted one year ago. She is an amazing kitty, she is so affectionate and loves playing and being silly. I have recently taken up yoga and when I am in the relaxation part of the workout (laying on the floor) my “sweet” kitty will come up to be and bite me on my face (my chin and the last one was on the bridge of my nose close to my eyes.) Why is she all of a sudden biting me? (she does not do this while I sleep and she sleeps with me at night) It’s not playful either; the last one almost drew blood. Please help! Yoga is supposed to be helping me relax and now I can’t because I’m constantly looking at her to make sure she doesn’t bite my face off! Thank you soo much for your help.

  51. Beatriz   February 22, 2014 at 5:25 pm  

    Hi, I am from Brazil. I always watch “My cat from hell”. I love it.

    I adopted my cat when she was 3 months. She is now 5 months and bites me whenever I do care. We can not pet her, she bites, most often does not bite hard. I think she wants to play, show affection. She bites mainly my hands and arms, but at night biting my feet, and sometimes she bites my cheek. My concern is that she is growing up and bites will be stronger. I want to play with her, make love, but do not want her to bite me.
    I have toys for the house: mice, laser cats go, ball snack, scratching pole …. she uses all the toys.
    My doubt: Am I super stimulating the cat, or should I play more with her to spend her energy? How do I know which of the two cases I am? Hoe can make her stop biting?



  52. Stephanie Perry   March 21, 2014 at 7:24 am  

    I have a 1 year old cat I just adopted, he’s neutered. We noticed when we first brought him home he likes to get in your face and bite your nose when you pet him, it almost appears to be like a “kiss” or a “thank you”. After three weeks of trying to deter him from doing this I’m feeling sleep deprivation as he will come into our room at night, get on the bed and get right in our faces and bite our cheeks or noses. I find myself having to hide under the blankets to avoid dracula and I’m beginning to get irritated with the process. I’ve thought about locking him out of our bedroom but it’s connected to the room where we find it best to leave his litter box and with him not declawed I fear he will scratch at the door if he’s “banned”. I tell him no every time and move him away from me, why does my cat do this and will he ever stop? I’m becoming a very tired pet owner. Thank you.

    1. Donald G.   June 28, 2014 at 12:26 am  

      it sounds like he may have a little bit of energy left over when its bed time. make sure you don’t feed him to late and give him ample time to lose that energy. its kinda like kids you cant let them take too many naps during the day or they will be up all night hahaha. integrate play into his schedule as well and
      make a sleeping spot for him, like a super soft little kitty bed with a heating pad underneath (assuming its cold outside). this will separate the idea of bedtime and “facetime”.


  53. Amber35   April 19, 2014 at 8:48 pm  

    I have searched and searched and i keep finding the same answer but i find it hard to believe. All these articles seem to suggest that my cat is overstimulated and that is why she gently bites me on my arm, but that is assuming i am even petting her. My cat (Tippy) is 9 years old i got her when she was 8 – 10 months old we have travelled and moved lots of times and she loves riding in vehicles but other then the trip to and from the apartement to vehicle she has never been outside. She was tempermental when i got her but has calmed greatly over the years she does not accept everyone in my household as her owner and so i am the only one she comes to or showes any affection to. I can almost do anything to her without reprecussions but she will hiss and claw at anyone else that she does not go to on her own so of course i have protected her from unwanted attention or lashing from her aggressive behaviour towards others always warning people to stay away from her and leave her be unless she goes to them on her own. What i would like to know is why or is it out of love that she will come out of no where and gently bite my arm then aggressively rub her face into my hand and arm and if that doesnt get me to pet her she then starts licking me with her sandpaper tongue which by the way feels real icky but it is enough to get me to pet her so she will stop. I would also like to know how to get her to stop aggressivly forcing her affection on me , not that i dont love it sometimes but i do have slight allergies to her fur so my eyes will swell and get itchy if exposed to her at close range for long periods. But i can move and she is on me. Could i have over done it with showering Her with so much love over the years?

    1. Donald G.   June 28, 2014 at 12:20 am  

      she sounds wonderful! play is part of stimulation that takes away the need to “bite” by tiring cats out, incorporate it. As for her being affectionate she needs something to grab her attention so little dinky toys planted through out the household will work. find ways of distracting her and reward her for good behavior by giving her a treat. patience is key in this ^_^

  54. NeNe   May 18, 2014 at 11:20 am  

    I am very confused. I am a cat lover. My husband and I take a Kitty we named Buddy off a lady’s hands. Buddy has turned a year old. I had a baby. He coped with that well. He laid on my belly. I let him smell the baby and that was no problems. We have neighbors downstairs with kitties and guess what he got along with their two. They go and play all of the time. So I decided to get me two more cute little furballs. Buddy hisses at the babies. But the baby boy hisses and growls back. He really doesn’t bother the baby girl so much. What should I do to make them get along. Please help I want a happy house.

    1. Donald G.   June 28, 2014 at 12:16 am  


      the best place to introduce a kitten is the bathroom as it has a door and the small space is comforting to kittens. reintegrate through feeding and using line of site. slowly introduce their scents to one another by cracking the door just a little bit and feeding on either side, kittens in the bathroom, adult cat outside the door. patience is key so do not introduce too quickly. i would instead wait until they are a week or two older by site swapping or separating them and letting the kittens roam the house, then putting them back and letting the adult do the same.

  55. Kass Rafford   June 27, 2014 at 7:55 am  

    Thank you so much for this video! We have a kitten we raised since he was tiny (had to bottle feed a bit) and he sometimes bites me when I’m petting him. I’m def. going to play with him much more. He’s very independent and LOVES to hunt & play more then to be petted. Thank you again! Just what I needed.

  56. Emily   June 28, 2014 at 8:30 pm  

    I have a kitten we just brought home from the shelter. She is very sweet and loving but only when she wants to be. Other times she just pounces on us out of nowhere. She jumps at our arms when we are sleeping and at our legs as we are walking by. She even pounces on my poor 11mo old son when he is playing on the floor. That is what we are most worried about. Will she grow out of it? Or is there a way to stop her from pouncing on him? Anything will help. Thanks!

  57. Penny   December 27, 2014 at 1:51 pm  

    I have a 6 and 1/2 month old male kitten who has been nuerted at 3 months. Maybe it is because I haven’t has a kittens in years but not sure he acts like he should and not sure he will calm down as he gets older. He is an (I believe) Siamese/Snowshoe/tabby mix. He has the Siamese traits of being talktive and belonging to one person. My question is once he is older will he stop or slow down on the biting and chewing that he does now? i don’t punish him other than to tell him NO and make him stop what he is doing or put in time out in another room. he time out helps as he doesn’t like to be alone. Is there something I am doing wrong ?

  58. Judy   December 28, 2014 at 6:51 am  

    A stray young cat dropped off three nursing kittens at my door over 3 months ago. We have cared for them by providing food and water, a warm bed on our porch and was able to trap mama and two kittens for neutering/spaying.
    We were lucky enough to give all away thru advertising with the exception of the one who we weren’t able to fix…but will on Jan 5. I am working on socializing “her” and can pet her but she won’t let me pick her up. Should I just continue spending time with her or is there something I can do to gain her trust so she will come to me and I’ll be able to pick her up?

  59. Laura   February 8, 2015 at 10:18 pm  

    Cats that cry in the night have the instinct to want to go out and catch mice/rats/birds. I bought a thunder shirt for my dog that fits snugly for dogs when they are nervous. My dog no longer needs the thunder shirt. I tried it on my cat who cries in the night I know he wants out as he used to go out. I moved into a townhouse and I am not allowed to let him roam. So he’s stuck inside all the time. He often cries in the night and I put the thunder shirt on him. He can get his front arms out of it so I don’t put it through his arms as I don’t want him getting one arm stuck. But it does work to stop his crying almost instantly. I put him in it and put him on my bed and he calms down, stops crying and falls asleep for the reminder of the night. I do not put it as tight as I would on the dog. So try that please for your cats that cry in the night.

  60. Daniela   May 2, 2015 at 9:46 pm  

    hello! I’m Daniela and i’m writing from Chile. I’d like some kind of advice. My first kitten named Catalina, died on May last year. It was terrible for me, becouse like all of you, she was my family, like my daughter, she was 13 years with me…. after many time before i took my decision, one day i was watching on facebook a group where people uploaded pictures and histories of abandom animals, specially kittens. Then in february i fell in love on a beautiful baby kitten of 1 and a half month, she was malnourished, skinny, and needed for home. So i talk with my mother to bring her home, and I do it. She is a tortie kitty now she has 4 months and a half, she’s a huge personality, sociable, and full but really full of energy. SO we live in an apartmend on a 13th floor, so now i’ll put chainmail on the balcony so she can go away to take some fresh air, and look what is it outside. I’d like to train she to take walks outside on the garden each time the weather allow it.
    Now, one of the things that concerned me a lot, is the energy that she has, acctualy i can’t remember how was the kitten experiencie with my first cat.
    But my Canela (that’s her name) is so playfull, she runs over the department at every time she wants to play. I bought some toys por her, balls, a carpet with lights, a tunnel, mouses, and even a tree for kittens, know I put some corbels in elevation so she can climb and jumb every time she wants.
    But one of the huge problems that i’ve got, is that when we are playing in some moments she attack me, and bites me on my hands, she grab me so strong that in ocassions it take me so long to release me. Other times, i think she may think that i’m a tree, because she started to climb through my legs, and now i look like a map…like my hands…and I don’t know what to do , so she doesn’t do this to me….now i’m scratched, bited, like a map.
    every day II’m trying to play with her when I’ll come back from work…but when i stop then started some kinds of attack….until she calm down…but some times it takes a lot of time….
    I don’t know if somebody could give me some advices, because i love my baby kitten, and i don’t want to be scratched or bites anymore!!, and i dont know what to do…
    please if somebody could help me I’d be so so so greatfull…

    greetings from Chile ( my english is not so good, but i’d like to improve it, and i hope you understand my question)
    thanks a lot!!


  61. Bonnie Singson   May 25, 2015 at 7:30 pm  

    Hi Team Mojo,

    How do I deal with my cat who bites every time he wants something? If he sleepy, he bites me or my sister because he wants to sleep next to us. How can we stop that? He does not bite during playtime or cuddling, just when he wants something done.


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  63. April   November 2, 2015 at 8:23 pm  

    I just got a 13 week old khao manee kitten. She constantly comes up to me meowing and follows me everywhere. She jumps on my lap like she wants attention but then she will bite as soon as i touch her???? I NEED HELP!!


We regret that Jackson does not answer questions posted in the comments. This is due to his demanding schedule and the high volume of requests he receives. But most importantly, since he has not met your cat, it would be contrary to his approach for him to give specific personalized advice for your specific situation. That being said, general questions and issues are addressed throughout this blog, in his book Cat Daddy and of course, the show My Cat From Hell.

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